Principles of Reward
Praise Effort, Not Results
"You worked really hard" is better than "You are so clever." This builds a growth mindset.
Reward Promptly
Reward good behavior as soon as it happens. Do not wait too long.
Be Specific
"You checked your homework yourself today — that is very responsible!" is more meaningful than "Good boy/girl."
Principles of Discipline
Avoid Physical Punishment
Hitting may work instantly but damages the parent-child relationship and teaches that violence is acceptable.
Natural Consequences
Let children experience the natural results of their actions. Refusing to eat means being hungry before the next meal.
Logical Consequences
A broken toy must be fixed before playing with it again. No homework means no screen time.
Consistency
Both parents must agree on rules and boundaries.
Common Mistakes
- Using screens as rewards — makes children crave screens more
- Empty threats — "I will not love you anymore"
- Over-monetizing rewards